So you are having trouble in your relationship, what should you do?
The solution is firstly for you both to agree there is a problem.
Secondly, you have both decided that both want it to work out or to give it a chance to survive if life could be better together.
The third solution is to seek professional help from someone who understands the way you are both operating as a couple.
The fact is that we are attracted to each other based on conscious thoughts. What we don't know are the unconscious wishes, motivations and desires that keep presenting themselves. This becomes a cycle that can't be stopped until we know what is causing this. There is an inherent need to continue on trying to get our point across, but feeling that it is futile and both of you begin to feel isolated and lonely within the partnership. The internal models that dictate an unhealthy relationship, once identified by a therapist, can be worked on.
It is ideal if both partners can attend but a significant change can occur through the attendance of one partner as well. To be able to understand your relationship from a deeper level can sometimes be a 'lightbulb' moment and can give you a reason to believe that there is something to work on. The goal of effective relationship counselling is to re-connect you both through a better understanding of each other.